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As I was praying over the day the other night, thanking God for His overwhelming grace and blessings, I suddenly found myself running a memory jog of dear ones He has placed along my life journey; you might say, His kilometer markings.
Most of the world, with the exception of the US and maybe one other errant country, runs on the metric system. Within that system many highways, such as those in Mexico have kilometer markings. They are sign posts on the side of the road telling how far you've traveled from the previous urban area and how far you have to go to arrive at the next one. Should you have an accident or breakdown, by simply telling the emergency responders what the closest kilometer marker reads makes it much easier to be located out in the middle of nowhere. [The markers are usually no more than 1 kilometer, or .6 of a mile apart.]
God has blessed me with a wealth of friends. My musings with Him have made me realize that He has placed friends along my life's journey much like highway kilometer markers; showing me where I've been, where I am, as well as lighting the forward-looking path of my life. Many mark a difficult learning plateau, making me much easier to locate.
By the way, you will notice a few obvious Kilometer markers not included; my children and their children and children's children; sibling; other family members. With the exception of my dad, I've purposely excluded the family, leaving them for another blog, dedicating this one to friendships.
Kilometer Marker One: My first friend was my dad - he taught me, trained me, opened up my love of music, art and literature. He encouraged me to "obey the gospel" - to be obedient to God.
It was my dad that walked me through a painful early lesson about gossip; he sat me on his lap and explained what certain words I'd been parroting during recent 2nd grade recess were really not the kind of words an innocent mouth should ever consider uttering. He gently taught me of the risk in uttering, parroting this type of words, targeting others, especially when I didn't know what they meant. He led me through understanding the hurtful results of my actions/words leading to heartfelt tearful confession of what I'd said; repentance and promise to not ever say such words again [and I haven't, believe me]; then celebrated the joyful release of forgiveness with me. Dad set my foot on the path of being able to freely admit my mistakes, repent of them and seek forgiveness from any wronged individual and from my Heavenly Father. Bless you Dad, for being the dad you were and still are in my heart!
Kilometer Marker Two: Butchie Randolph - a one-year old baby my family foster parented for two years during the latter part of WWII. This sweet child was the embodiment of open arms, no holds barred love. He taught me how to love like a child, and be as Jesus wants me, to be like a small child.
Butchie taught me to openly and passionately express concern for those I love.
At a Junior High School Christmas program, when he was a little over two years old, I sat high up on a painter's ladder that was draped in white sheets....with me dressed in white with wings, halo, you name it - an angel [that didn't last long, did it. lol] They shone a white spot from upper torso to halo, and as I sat on the ladder, behind a sheer gauze curtain, singing "O, Holy Night" it gave the impression I was suspended in air, floating, if you wish. He [Butchie} heard me, recognized the voice of his "Kappy" but was unable to spot me at first. However, when he did, he screamed in terror thinking I'd been turned into one of the Sunday School angels and was now with them in heaven. He was so frightened my mother had to remove him from the theatre.
I'll never forget his overwhelming relief when he saw that I was still earthbound. He ran to me, hugged my knees as only a two year old can, and sighed with relief.
Butchie's mom came for him that next summer, taking him to Australia to join his dad, grandparents and extended family.
Butchie is now a senior citizen but his absence from our family taught me that love doesn't leave our hearts when a loved one is no longer with us. I still mourn his departure and still love him for that child-like love. Thank You, LORD, for this child and others that mirror Your love to me. Help me to always reflect Your great love to others.
Kilometer Marking Three: Virginia - Many classmate friends blessed my school years. Virginia, however was the first truly close friend and mentor God brought into my life. She was in the 2-year Junior College that co-occupied my high school campus. A native of Colorado, she came to California for treatment of a severe congenital heart condition. She was so skinny you could see her damaged heart beating furiously in her chest, quaking and shaking her whole body with each beat. Even so, she was a walker - from school to post office, to super market back to school, home....you name it, she walked. She was a gifted writer. As she walked she mused about her next piece waiting to be written.
Our love of classical music, literature and art brought us into the same close group of friends of like interests. I was the baby of the group, the others were either 2 years ahead of me in school or were already in college. It was a thrilling, learning time for me.
It was this group that held me close when at 16 my mother decided I should be married as punishment for having 'talked back' to her about again moving me when I was only a few months from graduating. Virginia tried to convince my mother that marriage was not the best discipline tool for me, but to no avail. Story too long and involved to recount here, suffice to say I WAS married and 22 months later with two babies, divorced.
Divorce raised a scandal in that time, mid-20th century. My church turned its back on me because of the divorce and I turned my back on the church. Virginia hung in there as friend and mentor even as I bounced off a good little girl modus vivendi into a 'if it's there, let's do it' life-style, all the while moaning and groaning about my mother's fault in this downward spiral and host of problems.
Virginia lovingly mentored.
She sent me an article titled "Don't Blame Your Parents." The article spoke directly to me saying; "innocence is the only valid reason allowing you to blame others for your problems. However, the moment you become aware of the source of your problems, the ball is now in your court; you are now responsible for your own actions and responses." I certainly didn't want to hear this. It was too comfortable to continue my life-style blaming my mother for all the silly messes I fell into....'Mom! You did this to me!' Oh, yeah? NOT!
Virginia was one of if not the first heart catheterization patient at Stanford Lane Hospital. Post catheterization, she was hospitalized awaiting open heart surgery. While talking to her husband, in mid-word she slumped forward and into eternity. The last living cell in her heart died, taking her out of this world's pain she lived with constantly. I still miss her and love her.
Virginia taught me to be truthful about myself, accept responsibility for my own actions, make decisions to right those wrong decisions, to give up bitterness blaming others, and get on with the glorious life God had gifted me. Thank You LORD, for the gift of love and mentoring You gave me through Virginia, for using her to teach me hard life lessons I so desperately need.
Kilometer Marking Four: This dear lady's name has been long forgotten, but not the lesson God brought to me through her gentle whisper.
It was during the Korean War and I was one of the young chaperoned hostesses at social events [read dances ;) ]on the local base near my home town.
One evening I was having a particularly whoopin' hollerin' good time, when this sweet chaperon came up to me, softly whispered in my ear, "Kathy. Remember; dignity and discretion at all times." I was crushed, but this is one of God's life lesson I've constantly kept in my mind, one of the most life-changing of kilometer markings. Thank You, LORD,for this gentle soul You used to correct and teach me such an important lesson from You. Thank You!
Kilometer Marking Five: There are many 'kilometers' between K-4 and K-5. These were years of deep sadness, of rebellion, of anything but Christ-like life-style. I'd hung onto a slim thread of core belief in God but hid it from anyone that knew me. Finally, one night in Mexico City, alone in the dark I cried out to Him. "I believe in You, but I really don't know You nor what You want or expect of me. Please, LORD, show me. I want to know You."
That next Sunday I went to church services with the idea of wanting to be there, for the first time in almost three decades. [Thank You, Father for waiting on me; for Your patience with this slow learner!]
That morning an American couple, with their 8-month old baby in arms and 9-year old daughter alongside, approached me. Beve looked me in the eye, smiling and said, "You'll come to dinner on Wednesday evening, won't you?" My immediate response was "yes" - rather astonishing since it was the first time we'd ever 'seen' each other but God's love immediately placed us into a life-long friendship.
Beve and husband, Clay held the key to the prison I'd locked myself into for all those years. They taught me about God's grace, about the Holy Spirit's working in our lives, of God's great love for us. They taught 1 John 5:13 - as Clay read it, I didn't believe it really was in the Bible having never, ever heard teaching that we could KNOW we are saved.
Kilometer Five - God's saving grace kilometer marking. Not only did it mark release from rigid religion, opening the door to freedom in Jesus, it is the Kilometer marker that pointed to a new path, one on which Jesus would be, and is, my constant companion and guide.
Kilometer Five is a marker, but not a stopping point. It marks a beginning and a rebirth; the marker I'm most thankful for.
LORD, how can I thank You for bringing Clay and Beve into my aimless life, not only affording me a lifetime of friendship's sweet company, but even more importantly, thank You for giving me You! You are my strength, my companion, the permanent Marker and Maker of my life for eternity. Thank You, LORD Jesus!
There have been many new markers on this, God's path to Him. An avalanche of friendships, all marking new kilometers along my life's pathway;
In San Diego: Sylvia, my precious friend that has opened the door to freer questioning about what one of color suffers and how to help alleviate that pain. Pastors Tim, Craig and Ken whose teachings of God's Word have so matured my understanding and opened a new hunger to know more of Him. The loving and strong participants in the Single Parented Family Ministry at Scott.
In San Antonio: Joy, who truly lives her name with such joy in the LORD and a faithful friend, prayer warrior. Max, who taught me how to have a deep personal relationship with my Savior, Jesus. Big Al, whose love and devotion seems to have no end nor bounds.
In Abilene; Ruth, no longer here in Abilene, but whose friendship filled a gaping hole in my heart. She continues to nourish our friendship, even at such distances. Linnie, my Walk to Emmaus friend and prayer warrior. Another that has such joy in her love for Jesus! Nina, new friend and neighbor who knows how to share not only her struggles, but also her joys with a friend. The 200+ of my Sunday Class and 30+ of our Life Team, a new and gifted pastor/teacher/preacher, Mike. The LORD has flooded my life with hundreds of new Kilometer markers in friendship and community with His family.
In Blogland and Faith boards; As though real life friends weren't enough, the LORD has extended those markers out into the enormity of cyberspace. Not wishing to leave anyone out, but a list too long to mention everyone individually, a short list would include my beloved Linda-co-prayer warrior and mentor on the Faith Board, Bill Williams and his in-depth teachings on
Spiritual Oasis as well as the must-read blog of one of our shepherds, Jim Clark. Beverly's incredible strength and reliance on God as she walked through the successful struggle against breast cancer; Lisa and her joy in sharing her love for her boys with us; and last but not the last of so many nor the least of them, sweet, gifted Neva. Neva, who brings God's word right into our hearts transported on her wonderfully crafted words. She corrects, teaches, encourages, and shares joys with us, as well as her sadness. Neva, like all mentioned and due to time and space the hundreds more that are not named, have the gift of love in friendship. I'm constantly amazed how God uses the internet to bring more of His kids closer and in community. Wonderful, just wonderful!
God continues to bring new Kilometer markers to my life. Each one marks a new level of maturity in Him, areas needing correction, strengths and weaknesses; the first from Him and the latter needing His direction, discipline. There is no way I can thank God for the richness He has brought to my life through these friendships and His love for me. How can one single person be so gifted, so flooded with love from the source of all love, God; Father, Son and Holy Spirit. I praise Him in worship, awe and thanksgiving.
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